Thursday, March 06, 2008 Y
There are times when we are timid and shy about expressing the love we feel.. For fear of expressing the other person or ourselves, we hesistate to say the actual words "I Love You".. So, we try to communicate the idea in other words. We say "take care" or "be good"..
But reali, these are juz other ways of saying "I Love You", "You are important to me","I care what happens to you", "i dun wan you to get hurt"..
We are sometimes very strange people.. The only thing we want to say and the one thing that we should say, is the one thing we dun say.. And yet, becoz the feeling is so real and the need to say it is so strong, we are driven to use other words and signs to say what we reali mean..
And many times the meaning never gets communicated at all and other person left feeling unloved and unwanted.. Therefore, we have to LISTEN TO LOVE in the words that people are saying to us..
Sometimes the explicit words are necessary, but more often, the manner of saying things is even more important.. A joyous insult carries more affection and love within sentiments which are expressed insincerely.. An impulse hug says I LOVE YOU even though the words said might be different..
Any expression of a person's concern for another says I Love You.. Sometimes the expression is clumsy, sometimes even cruel.. Sometimes we muz look and listen intently for the love that contains..
But it is often there beneath the surface..
A mother may nag her son constantly about his grades or cleaning his room.. The son may hear only the nagging, but if he listens carefully, he will heard the love beneath the nagging.. The mother wants him to do well, to be successful.. Her concern and care for the son unfortunately emerge in her nagging..
But it is Love all the same..
A daughter comes home way past her curfew and her father confronts her with angry words.. The daughter may hear only the anger, but if she listens carefully, she will hear the love under the anger "i was worried about you".. The father is saying "becoz i care about you and i love you, you are important to me"
How to be a better couple?
1) Be realistic about each other - dun try to turn your partner into something into he/she is not, love each other for wat you are..
2) Always talk things out - dun make assumptions about each other's feelings.. learn to express yourself better so that your partner understands what you are angry about, or hurt about or even happy about..
3) Do stuff together
4) Meet each other halfway - there's gonna be a little giving and taking in a relationship..
In a relationship, know that both of you have limited time on earth to love each other.. keep this urgency of time in mind, and love each other with all you can..
6:48 PM -
hearts